It’s been a month since the wedding and we’re not even settled in properly yet. Some stuff are here and there, and my clothes are everywhere. I still have a lot of things in my parents house. Sometimes, Jeff and I will just look at the ceiling and think what really happened during the wedding. So here’s a list of things that I’d like my friends who are getting married to know.
1. It happens very fast. I don’t even remember some of the things that happened. You need to relax the day before the wedding and sleep a lot (which I didn’t do not because I’m excited but because my bestfriend/maid of honor slept over and as usual, we talked all night). You really don’t want to fall asleep just when you’re about to say your ‘I do’.
2. Pack your things ‘perfectly’. Three days before the wedding, I started sorting my stuff out. All the clothes were put inside the gown box (gown, veil, gloves which I was not able to use, fascinator, wedding shoes, prep dress, after party dress, flats). I also had a separate box for the stuff that will be used in the reception (secondary sponsors’ gifts, principal sponsors’ gifts, place cards), and another box for the church (secondary veil, cord, arrhae, Bible). I also brought the remaining gray and yellow fabric from the bridesmaids dresses and gray and yellow ribbons. Most of them were used to accentuate the giveaways.
3. RSVP three times. Only those who are getting married will know how hard it was to make a guest list. Jeff and I made our guest list in November and we were still updating it the day before the wedding. Our deadliest deadline was two weeks before the wedding. Most people replied whether they can or can’t come. Remeber that it’s your wedding, you call the shots and you don’t beg for people to come. For the guests, please don’t take it against the couple if they are asking and just answer politely if you can’t come. They really won’t bargain a lot because there will be 200 more of you. Making the guest list is the most stressful thing to do in a wedding. Please cooperate.
4. Be ready for those who were not invited but will come. They may be the plus ones or the plus tens of your relatives from the province. Never really had a big problem about it because those who came were my relatives.
5. Also, be ready for those who will RSVP but will not come. It was only after we got back from Cebu that I realized that a lot of those who confirmed didn’t come. Really appreciated those who told me that they can’t make it.
6. Make sure you go around, even if it is so hard to walk around because you are wearing high heels and a puffy gown, to talk to your guests and take pictures with them. Jeff and I were so happy because our headcount was 229 given that it was a Friday, and people really filed a leave so they can come.
7. Make sure that your suppliers were served food. Give instructions to your coordinators where the suppliers will get food. In our case, they were included in our buffet. Also, commend them for the job well done. I haven’t done a supplier review yet, but I will do it soon.
8. Eat. A lot of former brides told me that it would be impossible to eat on your wedding day. So I proved them wrong. In the morning, I ate breakfast at home. When I arrived in the prep site, I ate again (that’s brunch okayyyy). I have a very strict instruction to our wedding coordinator to have food ready inside the prep room in the reception so we can eat while touching up. There were two plates full of food! Sure we were not able to eat during the reception itself, but who said we were hungry? Never starve yourself on your day. Your energy will run out just before you say your I Do. I know someone who passed out during her wedding rites. Hello, Mama! Hahahaha!
9. Have spare shoes or flats because I’m pretty sure you will get tired of those heels. I wore a very comfortable three inch heeled shoes from Nine West but I knew I had to change to a more comfortable pair. Don’t make your feet bleed.
10. Don’t be so stressed out. Few months before the wedding, I read an article that a bride in Batangas died the night before her wedding. She passed out and never woke up again. Such a tragic story. Sure there will be a lot of wrong things that will happen on your wedding day, but no one will really notice them. You only need one thing to make your wedding perfect — marry the right person.
So there, go get married and have a happy life!